Some of you may remember Phyllis Diller -a comedian with wild hair, a raucous laugh and hilarious stories about Fang ( her husband ) and her stunning inadequacies as a housewife. One image that made a lasting impression on me was her description of her dirty oven. Apparently she had never cleaned it and now the layers of crud had built up over time so that the empty space in the middle was only big enough to bake one cupcake. Can you picture it?
For me — it’s the perfect visual representation of how accumulated emotional crud can limit our freedom, our capacity to be and do. Our lives are little cupcakes instead of delicious full meals. I want a turkey in the oven and roasted root vegetables and baked rice pudding for dessert, thank you. How about you?
One of the common feelings people have when they release old stuff with EFT is a feeling of freedom and spaciousness – as though the world is now larger – there’s more room to move around in – they’re no longer constrained – new possibilities open up. And it’s not just a feeling.
It’s absolutely true.
But oven cleaning isn’t the only useful metaphor here. How about cleaning in general -and the dirt that gets swept under the rug? How about decluttering? Getting rid of all that STUFF that we’ve hidden away in drawers, closets, basements and attics?(Deep in the subconscious) How about that desk piled high with paperwork to do sometime? The “I’ll do it later” that turns into never?
So – how do you clean your emotional oven with its years of baked on grease and crud? One layer at a time. With what is accessible. It’s hard to get to the early layers sometimes until you address the top layer. Just so with emotional distress.
How do you clean that piled high desk? I’d suggest you start at the top.
How about Phylllis Diller’s oven? The inner layer. Enough to bake a pan of brownies.
How about that cluttered house? One drawer or closet at a time.
You start with what’s accessible (what’s up for you) and you purposefully limit the scope of the project. You take time to appreciate the small, but important, progress. You savor it and pat (or tap) yourself on the head. Then, feeling good, and when inspired you tackle the next layer or project – keeping it doable and enjoyable. Since we’re talking metaphorically here – I’d like to remind all of you tappers of the importance of being specific – taking events and sticking with them until you’ve reached a zero – cleaned them up entirely. There is more satisfaction in seeing one absolutely clean drawer or closet than making a small dent in a lot of them. You have proof positive that one space is now shiny clean and it may give you the oomph to start the next small project.
Since cleaning is still an issue for me – I trick myself by saying I only have to work for 20 minutes. Go! And – you probably know where this is heading – by the end of those 20 minutes I’m begging myself for 20 minutes more. “Oh, alright”, I say to myself as if I’m handing out royal dispensations – and then happily do a lot more than I originally intended. It’s called momentum. It’s called outwitting your procrastination. It’s called success!